Tuesday, May 21, 2013
Boys versus Men....
Working around young women I see this a lot but last night, coming home from a women’s ministry meeting, it really got me thinking more about this problem in our world today.
Driving home I was thinking about what a blessing the women in our church are when I pulled up behind a man and a woman on a moped at the stop light. Sitting there for a few minutes, (this is one of the lights in our little town that seem to take forever to turn) I noticed this man reach his arm back and grab this lady’s bottom and squeeze, for more than just a second. At first I just laughed and thought, `seriously, doesn’t he know I am right behind him’, but then I really started thinking how disrespectful this was. Yes maybe this is something fine to do in private with your wife , but in public knowing there are cars right behind you? Totally disturbed me!
Young men, remember your role with these young ladies. You are to protect and cherish these young women. They are not an object for your sexual desires or someone you can boss around for that matter. They are to be your help-mate, an extension of you, to help you just as you help her in this journey on Earth for God’s glory. What some of you young men are doing right now is just beating these young women down and causing them so much pain that you probably don’t even see, because it happens inside, quietly, unseen and is covered up with a mask that everything is alright when it’s not. Cherish these girls. Open doors for them, pull out their seat for them to sit at the table, when you see them carrying something, carry it for them, and just be there for them. Be a gentleman.
Now to be completely honest, 16 year old me may have thought different in this situation, but 16 year old me did not have much self-worth and viewed my place with boys the very wrong way. I have matured over the years and thanks to God I have realized my worth through Him, who He made me to be. And that too is something that is missing from today’s society. Young girls that have no clue of their self-worth and how valued and treasured they are to God. They often see their value and worth through how a boy sees them. If a boy thinks they are sexy, cool, or beautiful then that is when their self-worth grows but what happens when that boy finds someone that he feels is sexier? What happens to her self-worth then, how does she view herself then? Typically she goes out looking again for that boy that will look at her in this way again, completely forgetting how she is already viewed so perfectly through the eyes of God. Ladies, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalms 139:14).
And if you are a parent reading this, this is our responsibility to God and His children that He has entrusted to us. To raise up those boys to become men and treat all ladies with respect and love just as Christ treats the church (Ephesians 5:28). To raise up our girls to know their self-worth in God’s eyes not man’s so they know how they should be treated…and maybe to remind them that they do not need those boys at all. Parents in this world, as far as I see with some, need to step up and take more responsibility for their children and who they become because in the end God is going to ask us all how we have taken care of His children and if we can not say we have done our very best to raise them for Him then we have wasted our time here on earth.